Some things are decidedlong before we meet.
ShidduchAI reads everything you share — your background, your family, your religious life, your values, your own account of your life — and introduces you to one person at a time, only when there is a real reason to. It starts with fifteen minutes on video. Nobody commits to a date before that.
Four steps, and no shortcuts.
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Tell us about yourself
The quick parts are quick: family, schools, what you're looking for, what you could never compromise on. Then ShidduchAI actually talks with you — about where you grew up, what shaped you, what your religious life looks like in practice, and what you want your home to feel like. It asks follow-up questions, because the answers matter more than the checkboxes. Add your photos, and a thirty-second profile video if you'd like. Take your time. You can stop and come back.
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We consider, then we suggest
Our matching algorithm weighs everything you've shared — hundreds of factors, the halachic requirements first, then values, background, religious expectations, character, family, and the way you describe your own life. You are never shown a list and never ranked against anyone. When the system finds a real reason for two people to meet, we tell you both — and we tell you why.
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Fifteen minutes on video
If you both say yes, you’ll meet for fifteen minutes on video, at a time you both pick. Saying yes means only that — fifteen minutes. Not a date. No phone numbers, no restaurant, nothing to arrange or get out of. Meetings are never recorded.
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Then you both decide
After the meeting you each answer privately: I’d like to meet in person, not for me, or I have questions first. Neither of you sees the other’s answer until both have answered, and a no is never explained to the other person. If you both say yes, what happens next is what you each asked for — if either of you wanted a shadchan involved, one takes it from there. If neither did, a private chat opens between you.
Nobody is browsing here.
There are no profiles to scroll, no photos to swipe past, and no way for anyone to search for you. You are introduced — deliberately, to one person at a time — or you are not seen at all. Your family details, your references, and your story stay closed until both of you have said yes. You can also name anyone you’d rather never be shown to. They will never see you, and they will never know.
Everyone here is who they say they are.
Verified photos, taken in the app. Real references, the way a shidduch resume always had them. Halachic requirements applied before anything else — never as an afterthought. And if a question comes up that a system shouldn’t answer, you talk to a shadchan.
Asked, and answered plainly.
Is this a dating app?
No, and the structure is different in a way that matters. A dating app hands you a stack of people and leaves the sorting to you — the whole design assumes volume and browsing. There is nothing here to browse. You are introduced to one person at a time, deliberately, with a reason we explain to you both. Nobody can search for you, scroll past you, or collect you. And a first meeting is fifteen minutes on video rather than an evening out, so saying yes costs you very little.
Who sees my information, and when?
Only someone we have suggested you to, and only once we have. At a suggestion they see your first name, your age, your photographs, your neighbourhood, your work, your religious life, and a short description of yourself that you write and approve before anyone sees it. Your family name, your family background, your schooling, your references and the conversation itself stay closed until you have both said yes, and the conversation is never shown to anyone at all. Photographs live in private storage and are served through links that expire within minutes — there is no public address for any image.
What does saying yes actually commit me to?
Fifteen minutes on video, at a time you both pick. That is the whole of it. Not a date, no phone numbers exchanged, no restaurant to book and nothing to get out of. Meetings are never recorded. It is much easier to say yes to fifteen minutes than to an evening — which is exactly the point. More people meet, and nobody feels committed before they have met.
Is a shadchan involved?
Yes, if either of you wants one. A shadchan steps in after you’ve both said yes to meeting again: answering questions, speaking with families, and helping arrange a first date properly. A shadchan also carries a no, so neither of you has to deliver or receive one directly. If neither of you wants one, a private chat simply opens.
How does the matching actually work?
In layers. Halachic requirements and your stated dealbreakers come first and are absolute — nothing gets past them. Then each of you has to fit what the other is actually looking for, in both directions. Then a weighted reading of religious life and hashkafa, values and life goals, character and steadiness, family background, and the way you tell the story of your own life. The algorithm is proprietary; the research underneath it is published, and we have written up exactly what we do and do not rely on.
How we matchWhat if I’m not comfortable with an AI asking me questions?
That is a fair thing to feel, and we would rather be plain than let you wonder. ShidduchAI telephones you and asks the questions itself. It is not a person, there is nobody listening in, and nobody is reading along. It asks follow-up questions because a real answer tells us more than a checkbox does. You can say you would rather not answer something — that is a complete answer and it moves on — and you can hang up whenever you like and pick it up another time. Nobody you are matched with ever reads the conversation or hears it, and you write your own short description of yourself at the end, in your own words.
When it is time, we will introduce you.
Your profile takes about twenty minutes and no one sees it until it is finished and reviewed.
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